I emailed my mom, and included pictures of my new locks.
Emailed her first, asking her to get all her bitching out of the way now, before I saw her in person.
So, Do you actually like your hair? Ya know, you are not from Jamaica and you are not black. Are you trying to be?
Yes, I'm very disappointed. You need money???? Do you think you're going to find a job looking like that? Looks like your money train Dad is letting you down, and you're Mom is not nor has never been a money train. Looks to me like you have put yourself in one hell of a position. No money and no one will even consider hiring you when you look like that.
It may be something that you did for yourself but maybe you should have stopped and really thought about what you were doing. You have no money and now it looks like you'll have no way of getting a job to get some money. Sometimes you have to be a little more mature about your decisions and do what it right for you and not always just what you WANT to do. It's called growing up and becoming accountable for what you do. I think you are going to have a very hard road ahead of you because you feel you can and are going to do just whatever you want to do and not stop and think about how it will really affect you and your life and where you may or may not be able to go.
Well, you wanted it all in email............I guess I gave you my thoughts.
I still love you Sweetie, even though I don't believe you think about what you are doing and just how it will affect you and the abilities that you may have. I believe you have thrown away a lot of possibilities that could have been in front of you. People judge.
Ya know, you are not from Jamaica and you are not black. Are you trying to be?
*sigh* Yep, that's my mom, Mrs Edja-ma-cated.
Now, as far as my father being a "money train".. lol she's crazy. I work for my dad in the yard (a BIG yard!). It's not like he just hands me money all the time. I get paid for what I do around his house/yard.
Let me also add that my dad never says anything about any kind of crazy things I do to myself. He just rolls with it. Piercings, tattoos... doesn't care. She freaks out at every little fucking thing. I mean, she fucking BROKE DOWN CRYING when she saw that I had my septum pierced. She couldn't even look at me! She said it was the 2nd most disappointing thing I'd done. EVER. Yeah. *shakes head* (the 1st most disapointing thing being sex before marriage, lol)
...and no one will even consider hiring you when you look like that.
And that's not true. Easily obtain a BOH position at a restaurant (lol, where no one would have to subject their precious innocent eyes to my hideousness!!), or some other job that doesn't deal with in-person customer service.
...maybe you should have stopped and really thought about what you were doing.
Of course, mother, like I didn't fucking do that already. I thought about it for MONTHS before I actually did it, weighing my options/choices. And I still decided to go through with it??? I must be completely INSANE!!
...you and your life and where you may or may not be able to go.
Thankfully, where I'm going is far, far away from you. ^_^ *kisses*
*sigh* My mother is the COMPLETE opposite from me. Though we love each other dearly, I don't see how I came from her. AT. ALL.
(edit) SWEETJESUS -- in my original email to her, I said "Okay, let everything sink in, DON'T CRY (you have no idea how that effected me when you CRIED about my septum piercing), and email me back." Well, she just sent another email to me while I was making this post:
umm, Krystal, yeah, If you you're keeping track.............I just got done crying...................
O_o I think she needs serious therapy of some sort.
If this was your mother, what would you do/say to her? Any weird applicable facts you may have.. *sigh* I don't know. Her email just stressed me out, and I decided to share, looking for ANY kind of advice from you guys with how to handle the situation with her.