a couple of miles later, at another red light, i heard honking. there was a large black woman in the car on my right, saying something to me. i turned off the stereo & she repeated that she loves my hair color. i smiled & thanked her & we proceeded on our separate ways.
now for the question:
while we on this community generally accept that black people were not the FIRST with dreads, so it's not "their" style to "steal", many people outside this group still labor under that impression. so is it somehow racist or reverse-racist or i-don't-know-what to feel extra good when a black man or woman compliments my hair? 'cause i do. it's always nice to get compliments, but receiving them from someone who may believe (or whose family may believe) that dreads don't belong on white people seems to carry with it an extra measure of something good.
usually we post the positive here on gudu, but not rarely come the posts about how someone's been verbally or even physically abused for wearing dreads. i don't know the percentage of black vs white people hurling the epithets (though it seems like it's mostly younger white kids) or their reasoning for doing so. maybe i more expect a black person to hate that i have dreads, & the "extra something good" i'm feeling is complimented plus RELIEF... i don't know. does anyone have any thoughts on this?