my half-sister, Tuesday asked me to be the bridemaid at her wedding this friday. that afternoon happened to be when i was getting my dreadlocks so i mentioned it when we were discussing the wedding days plans which included getting our hair done. she was upset and tried to sway me to not get them and i didn't lead her on to think that i'd change my mind.
Tuesday called me afer my dread appointment and said she was disappointed that I went through with it. The next day i checked my e-mail and lo:
"I am really disappointed you got dreadlocks! I was hoping you were going to change your mind since you would be in my wedding. To be entirely honest, I'm only going to have one wedding day in my life and I don't want the pictures I'm going to look at for the rest of my life to have you with dreadlocks in them. You are to pretty to mess your hair up like that. Just let me know if you are going to take them out, it's not too late! ...just wait on buying your dress for now. Talk to you soon. Love, me[tuesday]"
i'm not offended or anything. it's her wedding and if she thinks dreadlocks dont look nice that's fine. i wasn't really that attatched to being in the ceremony anyway. Tuesday and I didnt grow up together so we were never really close. its just later when my other half sister called and told me Tuesday was really really upset and crying because of it on the phone, i was very suprised.
i've become very aware of how image obessed my sisters are. Looking beautiful to them is more important then having fun in life. it's such a bizarre thing to me. i'd never exclude someone i love from my wedding just because of what the picture looked like. i'd rather have them involved because it'd be an even funner experience. i'd never be so arrogant to try to determine someones appearance.
we are way different people. they grew up in LA with a very rich and beauty obsessed lawyer (thier mother). i grew up with two older brothers in north california. my favorite activity was trudging through creeks and playing in mud. they did each others make up and did photo shoots. i'm certain the first time they saw any form of nature besides a ski resort was when we went camping. My mom grew up in L.A. She says its the L.A. mentallity: obsession on looks. Even she started falling into it which is suprising since all my life, i count count on one hand the times shes worn make up, or the times she used nail polish.
Tuesday hasn't even seen a picture of them yet. when i talked to her about it, i told her i could get pictures of my hair in a style that'd be appropriate for a formal event so she could see, but she decided not to before i could get them.
she still thinks i'll change my mind. I won't. Everyday i love my dreads more and more. even though you'd think regular would be more flexible concerning hair styles but i've been thinking tons of things to do hat i never would have with regular hair. i've made a bunch of polymer beads for them. it's awesome. i'll have picshas soon.
my dreadlocks cost me $70 to get them done, but they have saved me a lot of money I'd have spent on the dress, shoes, gifts, and the train/plane tickets and hotel. i think i'll spend the money on a trip to disneyland for my 18th birthday.
a week before my dreads:( Collapse )