November 28th, 2007

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The Secret Weapon.

My camera is not as nice as my g/f's, but sometimes, if I remember, I take pics at work. This was taken in the bathroom because there'd be no other way to show my ensemble and hair. I'm pretty glad nobody came in while I was taking this. It'd be hard to explain, I think.

"Oh hai... I was umm... taking a pic for my LJ friends? Go to HR and explain again? OK."

So, let me progress to the point of my post today.

I work in an office. I'm a professional writer/editor. I go to meetings, meet clients and such. Yes, like a real grown-up. This picture shows how I dress for work when it's coldish outside. I was just coming back from lunch when I took this pic, so I am still wearing my hoody and tam. I usually wear a clean, neat bandanna around my hair under the hat and tie my dreads behind me. Looking at me from the front, I don't appear to have dreads at all--I just look like I'm covering my head for some religious reason. If I was a Sikh or orthox Jew, I'd be wearing a turban or a yarmulke or some such thing, so nobody messes with me about this.

So, you CAN have a real office job if you have dreads (even really, really, extremely long ones), and you don't have to compromise your clothing choices or hairsyle all that much. You just have to be sensible with the way you present yourself. Most jobs with a dress code will be fair about your personal interpretation of "business casual" as long as you don't take advantage too much.

I basically follow the dress code rules to a T... with my own twists. I choose my daily dress from an extensive wardrobe of black, button-down Dickies work shirts and work pants. Timberland boots complete my "look." I've never been given a hassle about my appearance, except for one time when I was cold and wore my hoody at my desk with the hood up... that's not allowed. I forgot. And, like I said, I have never been hassled about my hair. Ever. And I don't push the issue by letting my head look a mess when I am at work. I just cover it. No problem.

Having said this, I do notice differences in the way I'm treated by the higher-ups here. For example, when the president of my company does office tours for potential new clients, he always skips my aisle of cubes and goes to the next aisle, where a very conservatively dressed, pretty young woman (with a similar job to mine) sits. Now, I work for my company's two biggest clients, and these clients LOVE me--they never fail to praise me and my work whenever possible. I got this job because I'm articulate and good at what I do--I've been told this repeatedly. And yeah, the president of our company knows and likes me--he's a nice guy, and he's really friendly to me. I get bonuses and raises and lovely citations from my bosses and the prez all the time. They even consult me for ideas on new ways to help our clients, which isn't even part of my job description.

Nonetheless, I'm skipped during client visits. I can only guess this is because the bosses feel my appearance might have a negative effect on potential clients. I could be wrong about this, but I don't think I am, and I am not asking. It's cool, actually. I have no idea what I would say to the potential clients, anyway.

"Oh hai... I workz here. Let me show you mah Pokemons. Mah Pokemons--let me show you them."

Don't get me wrong--I love my job, and my bosses are great folks. It just kind of sucks sometimes to feel like the company's "secret weapon."

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Hey everyone, this is a public apology for my last post. It was pointed out that I was inconsiderate and I'm apologizing to anybody I might have offended with my pictures.

I'm not doing this out of spite, not to start any(more) drama, not because of my bad attitude; I just feel bad for everyone I offended and realized I was absolutely utterly wrong.

So again: I'm sorry. And I'll think longer and harder before I post anything else.
I hope I'm forgiven because I really do like it here, and would hate to have to leave because I was so rude. Oi.
Tree Spirit

3 month update

So my dreads are a few days off from being 3 months old. The past few weeks majority of them have tightened up heaps which I am really pleased with, a couple on the other hand still have to catch up. My hair is still in excellent condition no matter how much salt water I soak it in, but the salt water is definately what has helped my hair lock up. The silky texture (and loose hairs) makes it hard to get good photos as they don't really look that defined at all, but they are tighter than they look in the photos.

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Rounding the tips question

I've spent 4 very interesting hours in the memories trying to find any mention of the concern I have here and found none. So it may not even BE a concern, or it just wasn't brought up so....

I love my natural ends. I do. But I was bored and curious and rounded the tips of three of my (omg, they're almost 6mo! I've been telling everyone they are 4mo!) ok, almost 6mo dreads with a crochet hook. They look pretty good, with the tips all locked up round and tight. So I thought I'd do a few more... Then I started worrying about if the crocheted tips will act like banded tips and slow the locking process.... so....

Have any of you experienced dread wearers ever rounded the tips of your dreads when they were still young and immature?
How do you think it effected their dread progression?
Do you think the rounded ones locked slower than the natural tipped ones?
Would you recommend rounding the tips of immature dreads?
Did you do it and have a bad experience I should consider as a risk?
Should I wait a solid year or so before considering rounding/crocheting anymore of my tips for the sake of speedy locking?

I was thinking a mixture of rounded and natural tips would look interesting, but I don't want to slow them down. (-_-)
A gift from Goss :)

A question and a racially confused girl

okay, I had to share this.

The other day my terminally white (okay, it's not ACTUALLY fatal...) friend asked me if I "have to scratch my head like black girls do when they have extensions."

I'm not sure which is funnier; her racially mixed-up idea of a weave or her dreadie innocence.

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Sorry, my cat Arf is sleeping across a few very important parts of my computer.

Anyway, I wanted to share that, but I also had a question.

My hair is always getting in my face. The dreads in the front are still fairly short and they tend to stick out at crazy random angles when I stick them back with a bandanna or headband, so usually I just hold the longer hair from around the ears back with them.
But still, there's that hair in my face. I'm a bad enough driver as it is I don't need a dread blind spot!

I'm wondering if anyone has tried hair clips? I can imagine they'd really flatten the dread, unless I could find the kind that don't press so hard against it (I can't really explain them, but I hope you know wtf I'm talking about). I think that mine are thin enough that a hair clip might hold them, though bobby pins are a no-go.

My apologies if something like this is already in the memories, but I've read them pretty thoroughly in the past and don't remember seeing anything about it. :)!
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