March 16th, 2008

thoughts on no dreads

DISCLAIMER: This is MY opinion on MY dreads. You might not feel the same way, but please entitle me to my own views.

This post might not be appropriate...but at the same time, it might be an interesting addition to the "Should I Get Dreads?" section of the memories.

I'm glad I cut off my dreads; they represented something that I'm not. While I had them for 3.5 years, I enjoyed the challenge of fighting the "dirty hippie/pothead" stereotype. However, my confidence has greatly increased since I've cut them off (2 months ago), and I'm assuming that's because I can be myself without carrying around the burden of fighting stereotypes.

Even if people didn't carry stereotypes about me, my dreads made me self-conscious like they did. When people looked at me a little too long on the streets, I always assumed it was because they needed another look at my dreads, and would each have their own opinions on them. With my short hair now, if people look at me a little too long on the streets, I like to think it's because they think I have a cute shirt on, or they remember me from a party a few months ago, or something that isn't so judgmental like the ideas that dreads can bring.

I feel like I definitely attract different people, too. I know that there are exceptions to everything, but I feel like when I had dreads, I only interested "alternative" guys and lesbians (but that's a different story), and generally, I don't prefer either. I think that most guys that I am interested in, that are different from those I listed above, would not be interested in me because of how I looked, and therefore would not get to know my personality. Yes, this is shallowness from both sides of the equation here, including mine, but it was still there. Without dreads, confidence comes back into play because I don't have the fight-the-stereotype burden when I meet guys.

Sometimes I miss my dreads, like whenever I look at pictures--they look so soft and lovely--but then I remember how much of a hassle they were and also for the reasons I've just gone over. And I don't regret cutting them at all. I don't regret things, anyways--I always try to find a reason why I did it, and realize that it was just how I was feeling at the time.

If you're considering dreads, this might not help you because some things are just better if experienced personally, but I wanted to throw my .02 in.

Pictures as reference--
sad as a weeping willow (get it? har har):
title or description

excited with curly hair:
title or description
  • Current Mood
    thirsty thirsty

Crafteh Crafteh!

Woot! My babies are three days old today, giving me a little trouble with loose hairs, but I've been spraying them with salt water every day and palmrolling. Today I intended on using my Sunday to thread loose hairs back into the main dreads and spending lots of time babying them and tidying them up. I slept in, being a weekend, and woke to a call from my little brother that he needed a ride to his rehab meeting in about an hour and a half. I jumped out of bed, threw some clothes on and my baby dreads were raising the roof! ... Almost literally!


Collapse )
  • Current Music
    Bad Religion - Los Angeles is Burning
A gift from Goss :)


So many things happened with my dreads today, it was weird...

The guy that works at Subway came running out excitedly to touch them and called me "rasta girl" lol.

And the old lady at Super Cuts seriously looked like she was seeing dreads for the first time. Maybe she was? Either way she just walked right up an touched them and tried to have me explain the red-wool felted one.

I saw my old boss today. He's a good ol' Southern boy type of guy. He's a nice dude, but he definitely strikes me as "old fashioned" when it comes to things like dreads.

But he actually said, and I quote, "you're the only person I've ever seen that looks cute with dreads."

I practically pointed at my Dad (he was there) and shouted "HAH!"...but I refrained.
It was definitely a good pick-me-up after hearing him rip on my hair for like 20 minutes.
He insists on calling me Side Show Bob and telling me that his hair is prettier than mine.
I think it's his weird way of bonding? lol.

I almost want to bring my old boss pictures of all the cute dreadheads around, but I don't think he actually cares. It just seemed like some kind of victory for every person who has to endure their parents ripping on their locks.


Sorry it's long, haha.

My dreadlings are finally a week old!
Boy, am I happy!

I read a post earlier about waineofark cutting off her dreads because they made her self-conscious (due to stereotypes). I can understand that, and I’m glad to hear you’re happier.
For me though, I seem to have the complete opposite effect.
I’ve always been nervous around other people. I can start freaking out in a room of people. I’ll be sitting there, silently, and looking around at everyone. I’ll be convinced that every single person in that room is scrutinizing me. I’ll be convinced they hate me. I get really anxious, my palms get sweaty.
On the streets, if people looked at me, I figured they were scrutinizing me again (because of my piercing).
And whenever I would visit some relatives they’d ask, “why can’t you just be normal?”

With dreads though, I don’t know what it is about them that just makes me feel great. I still get nervous, but not as much. I really get to thinking: “who cares? I don’t need these people if they’re going to judge based on my looks.”
I’m experiencing those few moments where I honestly think I look awesome.

Thankfully, my mom doesn’t nag me (she got use to it after the first lip piercing), my friends who know (about 3 for now) are generally excited about them.
My friend, Krissy, came with me to get my dreads. Now when we’re hanging out or on the phone, at some point she’ll just ask: “so how are the dreads doing?” and is genuinely interested/excited to hear about them.
Another friend of mine, commented on a photo of them.
My caption read (they were 5 days old): “Almost a week old! Dreads are still young & puffy, but the whole sticking out, sideshow bob thing is pretty much over with.”

My friend said:
“Awesome dreads!!
Are you going to start keeping a journey on your dreads?
Day 1...they stick out like sideshow Bob
Day 7...they are young and puffy
Day 15...they are just chilling
Day 27...I can bounce quarters off them lol, hmmm dunno if that can happen or not.
Day 30...they repel unwanted drama because dreads are cool like that and have secret powers.”

Sorry that was long (I figures it was worth a read). Anyways, photos!

Collapse )


I heard a really awful story today...
My friends boyfriend had really long dreads when he was a child... he had them since he was 5 and then when he was 11 he got put into care and some social workers shaved them off, he begged them to let him keep one to send to his mum and they said they would send it and then never did D:
I did'nt even know they had the power to do that , The story actually made me sad all day.

I re-located my phone camera lead so heres some pics for ya.

Collapse )

A letter

Dear Ms Johnson's 8th Grade B Period World History Class:

My little sister has informed me that for some reason involving her best friend that I met once, ever, I often get brought up in your class, and you all think that I'm really cool because I have dreadlocks. Please continue thinking this, because my little sister hates them and its really funny. Its also strangely flattering and ironic because when I was your age, I would have sold my soul for a friend.

Sincerely, Kelly

Dreadlock Site

I have lurked for some time, and there are some sweet locks around here.

Here is my site and it's fairly new.  It will have regular updates on dread news and info.  Should be some good stuff, so add it to your reader if you use one.

Dreadhead Times

Actually the gallery could use your help if you have time.  Send a photo.  If you want.

Hopefully I can make some friends here???  Hmmm???