I am new to the community, and after spending years admiring lovely ropes of hair on various people, I've finally decided to commit to it.
I've been throwing myself into the memories for the past couple days, but I'm still not feeling like I'm getting my questions answered, so apologies if I missed the obvious.
I bought a flea comb with the intent to have a friend backcomb my hair, but she won't be able to do that for a while, being that she's super duper busy. I could do it myself, but I'm ridiculously clumsy with anything mirror-related. So my friend at work, who has had his dreads for nine years, told me not to take the "easy" way out, to just stop brushing my hair and let it happen naturally.
I'd -like- to, but my hair texture has always been this crazy silky-smooth and straightness that refuses to hold onto ANYTHING. I'm not sure neglecting to brush will really do anything (I know, I know, patience). I also shower every night... mostly because I get cold, and it's the best way to warm up before bed (it's become such a habit that I often have a tough time getting to sleep if I haven't showered).
So! My questions are, do I need to stop showering so much while not brushing my hair, or can I go ahead and shower every night as long as I don't shampoo or detangle? Should I use Dr. Bronner's-style soap? Or even just let it get wet and refrain from soap at all? With hair that has my texture, will neglecting it work out? And should I maybe just stop brushing, and maybe have my friend backcomb in about a month, when her schedule's probably freed up? Is there anything I should do after a shower, aside from just letting my hair air-dry?
Am I a neurotic mess? :D
Thanks people. I hope I didn't make a fool of myself.