As much as we all wish the world would be populated by nice folks who judge each other by the quality of their character and not the way they look... and not be obnoxious or rude or insensitive...
Well, I think we all know that's just not the way things are, right?
The general public has a rather narrow view of beauty, and it doesn't often tend to include things like dreadlocks, peircings, tattoos, etc. So... we, as people with dreadlocks, probably shouldn't be too suprised when some average citizen thinks we've "ruined" our hair or makes some kind of derogatory comment about the way it looks.
I mean, it's not like we've just fallen into dreadlocks--we CHOSE to have them, right? We have essentially invited criticism and commentary by virtue of our appearance. We either learn to deal with it, complain a lot or lop off our dreads because it's too much of a hassle.
I've had dreadlocks for 13 years now. I have been alternately ridiculed, oogled, commented on inappropriately, insulted, revered, pursued and feared at different times... simply because I have locks. I'm ok with all of it... I'm cool with me. That's what matters in the bigger picture.
So, as much as it can hurt when people make fucked up comments about our hair or make judgements about us because of our hair... well... it basically comes with the territory, and if you can't stand the heat, it'd be best for you to get out of the kitchen.