My 8 year old daughter is a toe-head and she's been asking me the past few days if I could dread her hair. I've explained to her before that it can be a painful process to backcomb them and she declined. I've told her that once they're in, it's a commitment. I'm not going to do all the work only for her to decide that she doesn't like them and then have to comb them out. It's hard enough to comb her hair on a daily basis with her pissing and moaning about how it hurts (her hair tangles easily). Perhaps she's getting tired of it and realizes that she'd just rather not have it brushed any more and would rather have it look like mom's hair.
I've told her what it means to me to have them. I told her that I won't do it for her unless she's absolutely certain she's ready and wants them.
She's been asking to have them done for the past few days. I'm going to give it a couple more days and she if she's still asking.
I'm of the opinion that my kids shouldn't have anything done to them unless they want it when it comes to their appearance: earrings, circumcision, hair cuts, etc.
If she's asking for it, though, I want to be able to be a part of it if she wants me to. I just don't want her regretting it 2 days after.